It took me seven years to kick my alcohol addiction. Seven long years of trying and failing to stop drinking alcohol after 35 years of consistent heavy boozing. If you are struggling to come to terms with your alcohol addiction, then you have landed at your final destination, because I made this website for you.
I built this site to help people come to terms with their excessive drinking and realise that it is the cause of all their problems and misery rather than their saviour. Alcohol may give you temporary relief from your life problems, but it exacts a terrible price for it. Consistent heavy drinking can also make you depressed long term, without you even realising it, as well as storing up a myriad of other health problems.
I'm not against people drinking. Not at all. For those who can have one or two drinks and then stop I wish you the best of health. But for many hundreds of thousands of individuals, it has become a millstone around their neck that they would be much better off without. The problem is that when you realise you are drinking too much, it's too late. The alcohol has taken you.
So to begin with, you are here, and you are reading this, and you are wondering if you have a problem with alcohol. Am I an alcoholic? That is the question you want answering.
An alcoholic presents a typical stereotype with which we can all identify. Drinking from a brown paper bag while idly whiling away the time on a park bench. Sinking their first drink before breakfast, drinking every day, smelling of whisky or other spirits, dirty, unkempt clothes.
That's most people's acceptance of what it means to be an alcoholic. But in reality, there is a vast swathe of the population that simply drinks too much and finds it hard to stop once they get going. Because it is socially acceptable to drink, getting drunk is considered the normal thing to do.
Just because you don't conform to the stereotype doesn't mean it is OK to continue binge drinking your way into the grave. Alcohol is a very powerful drug that changes the way your brain processes information. After an extended period of consistently using alcohol, your brain has become used to the rush of Dopamine that the first drink brings. Once you've had one drink, all bets are off.
You may not be an alcoholic in the commonly accepted use of the word, but you know you drink too much. If you wake up in the morning and vast tracts of time from the night before have gone missing, or you regularly have to turn detective to find out what you did the evening before then you are well on your way to becoming a fully paid up member of the club.
Things Don't Get Better From Here; They Only Get Worse.
The sad truth is that in modern western society those that don't drink are considered abnormal or unsocial when in fact the opposite is true. In the early days of abstinence, I lost count of the number of times I was called “boring” halfway through the evening only to be the last one standing when the clock ticked over into the early hours or it came to singing “Auld Lang Syne.” Last year I saw in the New Year on my lonesome, because everyone else was passed out 11 PM
Even though the very idea of being sober at a party or when you next go out with your mates scares the hell out of you, once you get used to it you'll never want to go back. You've been brainwashed into thinking that alcohol is required to have a great time.
It's not the amount you drink that defines whether or not you are an alcoholic. It is how alcohol is affecting your life that is the important thing. Just because you have mates who drink more than you and don't consider themselves to be alcoholic doesn't mean that they hate themselves any less when they wake up with yet another hangover and spend yet another wasted day in bed.
If alcohol is interfering with your enjoyment of life then it's time to stop drinking and time to start partying!